Friday, October 25, 2013

ज़िन्दगी एक पहेली

रात गयी , और दिन नयी 
हर दिन एक नयी शुरुवात  बनी 

बच्चपन में तो कूब मज़े की 
रोते जगध्ते और हस्ते हुए  भी 

इसी तरह सारा जीवन चलता रहा 
ना  जाने कब बच्चपन ,जवानी में बदला 

यह दुनिया की सफर तो है बड़ी लम्बी 
कभी रुलाती है कभी हस्साती भी यही 

कधम कधम रक्ते जायेंगे सभी  
किसी और की राहें या अपने कुद  की 

सुख दुःख का पहिया चल्ता रहेगा 
अँधेरा हो या फिर उज्जाला भरा 

बुढ़ापा  तो हमें बोहुत तड्पाएगा 
आक़ीर फूल किला तो मर भी जायेगा 

Manna dey's music is evergreen

Its sad to know we have lost a great playback singer who had done a great contribution to the Indian film industry with all his great songs. From " Yeh raat bheegi bheegi "  to " zindagi kaisi hai paheli" , every song has touched my heart with the lyrics it has and the emotions it had been sung with.
Among the songs i have heard till date, old Hindi classics have always made me relate the song with my mood and most of the old songs i hear to is of this legendary singer. Each of his songs are not just sung with a syncronising music but also has such deep meanings of love and life.
This is one such song with the depth ...
         रात गयी  फिर दिन आता है
        इसी तरह आते जाते है
        यह सारा जीवन जाता है

        इत्ना बडा सफ़र दुनिया का
        एक रोता एक मुस्कुराता है

        कदम कदम रक्ता है राही
        कितनी दूर चला जाता है
        एक एक तिन्के तिन्के से
        पंची का घर बन जाता है
         कभी अँधेरा कभी उजाला
         फूल खिला फिर मरजाता है

         खेला बच्चपन हंसी जवानी
         मगर बुडापा तड़पाता है

         सुख दुःख का पहिया चलता है
         वही नसीबा कहलाता है

Even though Manna Dey has left this world, he will be remembered and will live through the songs he has sung to the world.

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

nosy people and anger management

It had always been a concern to me when ever i ended up getting annoyed when i am questioned many times about random things. Initially it made my parents feel i wouldn't be able to maintain good relations because of my anger ,but what was the cause? was it just because i was not cooperating and was being moody all the time?
I was asked to take some anger management therapies and to even practice meditation,which i did. I did get a lot of peace of mind , and my concentration in studies did increase,but it dint really  serve the main purpose. On pondering over what went wrong, i realized the people who had questioned me had been very inquisitive in my personal matters,which i dint want to answer to them. it wasnt just me who would have  got pissed off,by the questions. i guess anyone else too would. But back then in school ,i was not so matured enough to think people would be so nosy in others affairs. and nor did i know how to reply back what was necessary and not everything i was asked. or to even be rudely straight forward to them  or not want to answer some questions.all this irritation did breed in me,and tickled all the hormones which get affected by anger.

Realizing how harmful it was to survive around such nosy people because they want to compare their progress in life to others in order to feel Good about themselves.Or may be nosy people aren't doers they try to achieve their goal of superiority without doing much effort. When nosy people hear about someone who became very successful they try to dig behind his success not to learn from him but to prove to themselves that he is not that successful or that he succeeded by luck. Again their actions have one purpose which is making them feel good about themselves without doing any effort.

I still feel the same annoyance when come i  across people who are very nosy and dig into my personal matters ,but i did learnt to manage the situation in a much calm manner. the book called "how to get over anyone in few days" is one book which helped me with it. it does take lot of effort and practical implementation to manage an anger free conversation with the nosy people though. but ultimately its worth the try not just for for getting over nosy people but one also learns the way to get along well in a conversation.
after all not everyone we talk are always nosy.