tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7730842469456725952024-03-19T02:55:31.422-07:00Random RamblesV. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-12260981257629516152015-07-08T16:24:00.002-07:002015-07-08T16:24:23.232-07:00Few simple things to get over one's aggression<ul>
<li>Blog/write</li>
<li>Breath in and breath out deep for a dozen times</li>
<li>Runnnn....!/workout</li>
<li>Go and do a favor - act of kindness</li>
<li>Don't talk at that moment. Instead Sing!</li>
<li>Remember the best of memories you have had with the person you are showing aggression towards. Sure they are a better person than you think they would be at the moment.</li>
<li>And of course, stay away from nasty people who could even influence you to get aggression.</li>
<li>Do whatever stuff that makes you feel positive and relaxed. (The above were just some of my recommendations.)</li>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-9609790757792827512015-03-13T11:29:00.002-07:002015-03-13T11:29:58.383-07:00really really fatMany Indians have a very funny habit of giving hyped praise which most of the time gives suspicion to the victim, and other people do it to make the victim happy. My aunts all do this very often. They would always say, "you are so thin, how do you Maintain this?" , " slim and beautiful" , tell me the secret " etc etc and I would obviously give an exaggerated smile with a blush, even though I would know that they are bluffing (and me not being as thin as they would show me with their words). This year, when I visited them, not a single person has uttered a word. I realized how truly fat I have become.V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-14964659969930053182015-02-07T15:22:00.004-08:002015-02-07T15:22:58.468-08:00How funnily creative, can I get :PSince I decided to take a long two months vacation to India, and spend some time with my Parents and Parents-in-law and other relatives, I was looking for good flight deals starting with the British airways site. It was pretty expensive.<br />
But, what a timing it was.. me giving a gaping expression on seeing the expensive prices and my hubby uttering 'British airways'. I accidentally heard it as 'Beti sheer waste'.<br />
We both laughed our gut out, at my mishearing.<br />
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And this even led to my first rap song ;)<br />
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hear it <i><a href="https://soundcloud.com/v-sai-archana/british-airways-beti-sheer" target="_blank">here</a></i><br />
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I am looking for a flight in British air ways,<br />
From SFO to hyderabad, i wanna fly away<br />
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loading.. loading.. loading.. its makin me wait<br />
I wanna cheap one, a fast one, a fair deal i say<br />
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loadin up and showing the deals - British air ways<br />
Oh Ma gawwd! said my hubby, "beti sheer waste"<br />
<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-9932884973213346882015-02-02T16:25:00.003-08:002015-02-15T15:37:00.986-08:00Good with a God or Good without a God?!I had this short discussion with a relative of mine yesterday. Uncle L is an atheist, nothing wrong in that. He is a successful and a very active person, may be in his late 60's or early 70's. He was talking to me about the various communities and organizations he is a member of. One of them were the American Humanist Association with a tag line 'Good with out a God'. That was when I discovered He is an atheist, and was having my own thoughts running in my mind about this new discovery.<br />
He then started explaining what the tagline meant. I listened to everything keenly.<br />
Then I asked him,<br />
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'what about the many people who believe in God. The people who pray. Don't you think prayers have a positive effect on a person?'<br />
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He said,<br />
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'No! It in fact gives a negative perspective to individuals about the way they should live their lives'<br />
In fact, people follow so many traditions in the name of God, it is a waste of time. Instead they could do something useful than to spend hours together performing rituals and reciting something that they don't really understand'<br />
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By the time I could ponder on his words and reply back, we were interrupted by other people.<br />
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I agree to the point that a lot of people do things without even understanding the purpose of it. Not just religious rituals or superstitious beliefs people have, it happens even in other fields of interests.<br />
But the point that of Uncle L, I completely disagree with, is, the negative perspective people would have by praying.<br />
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I am not a very religious person myself, but I am spiritual, following certain traditions as per my convenience, and mainly the ones that make me happy. Prayers, hymns are like music to my ears which soothes my mind and relieves me from the day-to-day stress I undergo. Isn't that what one should work on? to have a peaceful and stress free life?<br />
In fact, it is a fallacy to say orisons/hymns don't have a positive effect on our mind and heart.<br />
In fact Researchers have come up with findings on the positive effects of Yoga,meditation, praying and chanting hymns have on our brain. you can read more about this online. here are some links for your quick access.<br />
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<a href="http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2013-11-22/harvard-yoga-scientists-find-proof-of-meditation-benefit">http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2013-11-22/harvard-yoga-scientists-find-proof-of-meditation-benefit</a><br />
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<span style="color: #0000ee; text-decoration: underline;">http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=104310443</span><br />
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<a href="http://www.kaheel7.com/eng/index.php/secrets-of-quran-a-sunnah/282-american-researcher-has-discovered-that-while-praying-the-brain-re-programs-itself">http://www.kaheel7.com/eng/index.php/secrets-of-quran-a-sunnah/282-american-researcher-has-discovered-that-while-praying-the-brain-re-programs-itself</a><br />
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However, I envy the people who have a blind faith in God and pray to him with utmost diligence. Because, this belief is what gives them the confidence and encourages them to start another day filled with happiness, leaving their big burdens on the God(s) they worship.<br />
Some people even accept failure to be the doing of God, for their good.<br />
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The same scenario, in case of an atheist, will have to blame himself for his failure. I doubt if an egoistic atheist would be able to handle that in a better way.<br />
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At the end of the day, One should do what ever is convenient and satisfying to oneself, and not try to force their beliefs on to others, nor get negatively influenced by others.<br />
<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-34966010894774695842015-01-26T15:22:00.002-08:002015-01-26T15:36:25.915-08:00The very inspiring blogger award! <span style="background-color: white;">Thank you so very much, <a href="http://deadrosesandweepingfigs.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Athira Rajkamal</a> for nominating me for the very inspiring blogger award. You made my day. Your blog is one place i always check for a book suggestion, when i'm in search of a new book to read :)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 28px;"><b>This award is given to those bloggers who inspire you. If you are nominated, you have to follow a few rules.</b></span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;"><br /></span></span><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">1. Thank and link the amazing person who nominated you</span></span><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">2. List the rules and display the Award on your blog</span></span><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">3. Say 7 facts about yourself</span></span><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">4. Nominate other 15 amazing bloggers for the award, link them and inform them about the nominations</span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;"><br /></span></span><span style="line-height: 28px;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;"><b>Seven facts about myself.. hmm.. </b></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">1. My high school friends and childhood friends even now remember me for my art work. Yes, I discovered this talent in me from an age of 6 years when I started with abstract art my big brother's precious collection of comics books and I still continue it. Except I have now learnt some other types of paintings/drawings too. ;)</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">2. As kids, My brother and I had very unique games we would play together. I would call them real time </span></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">scientific experiment instead. W</span><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">e would trap mice, pick them up by our bare hands , place them on blocks of ice, then in luke warm water, and sometimes even in a freezer of a discarded fridge which was still in working condition. </span></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">Test on their survival capabilities under different temperatures. </span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">We would record the time the rat could stay undisturbed in every condition. :P</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">3. I was a dog lover until I developed a phobia after having a bad experience two years back, in the streets of Bangalore, where a street dog from no where came charging at me and almost bit my leg. :(</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">4. I am so fond of chocolate cakes and chocolate ice creams that, one week of not having anything sweet made me crave for them at the middle of the night. One day I even woke my husband for getting me an ice cream. Instead ended up taking a big lecture from him :-/</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">5. Sometimes my untimely sleep makes me have the most adventurous dreams, based on which I had even written a poem. ^_^</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">6. Most people I have met till date, live by certain religious rules or customs which I'm sure doesn't make an sense to themselves but still follow to be accepted in the society the live in. :-|</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">7. I sternly believe one can achieve their goal in life, if they show constant effort and undoubted trust on oneself. Failures being are part of the learning process. -_-</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;">That was some facts about me. Now its time for me to nominate some talented bloggers who have inspired me...</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="line-height: 18.4799995422363px;"><a href="http://niceguy251.blogspot.com/2015/01/happy-new-year_83.html" target="_blank">Shared thoughts and Experiences</a></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://samuru999.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">When the Heart speaks</a></span></span><br />
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<a href="http://deadrosesandweepingfigs.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">It's Raining Words</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.ankuanand.com/" target="_blank">Tangled Vibes</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://electroscribbles.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">My own little world</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.agalincity.com/" target="_blank">A gal in city</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://allabtpj.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Journeying through Life alone</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://evincere.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Evincere</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://soundaryanandakumar.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Thanking My Mind</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://kparthas.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Random Thoughts</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.chronicwriter.com/" target="_blank">Chronicwriter</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://hummingwords.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Humming words</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://dilmainhainpyar.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">My land of dreams</a></span><br />
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<a href="http://chandrikashubham.blogspot.com/" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: white; color: black;">Chandrika shubham - a reserved chit-chatter!</span></a><br />
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<a href="http://hrzn.blogspot.com/" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: white; color: black;">New Horizon</span></a><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">Congratulation to all the bloggers. Hope you keep inspiring many others with your writings! happy Blogging! :)</span>V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-3440929191684191412014-09-28T19:08:00.000-07:002014-09-28T19:08:54.291-07:00my first 5k runI had to get up early @ 7am on a lazy Cloudy Sunday, having only sleep for 6 hhours<br />
Though I am trying hard to lose my extra pounds, I haven't built much stamina to run continuously, nevertheless I reached the finish line before a few ladies who were trying to keep up with the group.<br />
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But it definitely was motivating and hoping to get better in my next run.V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-47112070703547911252014-09-25T00:19:00.001-07:002014-09-25T01:08:03.790-07:00painting and reading a book are my anti depressants!Since this blog is the only place where I ramble with all my emotional being, with just a hand full of people whom i have never met before, reading it, i rather admit it here itself that my mild depression is slowly aggravating inspite of trying to keep myself busy. I so want to talk about it to someone, but I don't want anyone to get stressed because of me; I don't trust anybody who can take what ever I tell them and still expect them to keep it to themselves.<br />
I am definitely missing my life with my parents around me. And may be i am lonely because i haven't made a single friend here, since I am not a very outgoing person(of course it makes me miss all those good old days with my friends and family who were always there for me when i was in India). Or May be I am still a kid who yearns to be in a closed shell and not experience the harsh world.<br />
I think of all possible ideas to keep myself happy. My husband even asked me if i need a dog which i really feel the need for, but i am a person who is still learning to take care of myself amidst my depression. I sometimes even long to have a baby though we have postponed for three more years. Perhaps, these sudden impulses and longings are also symptoms of depression.<br />
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Though books and painting always are my best antidepressants, I dint quite get adjusted to a non socializing life, inspite of being a victim of some people's rudeness (may be they din't really mean to be rude, or that is a well accepted behavior in the society, but since it was the same persons behaving like that again and again, it has disturbed me very much)<br />
Nevertheless, I feel it is better to talk to a stranger,not revealing ones identity, than to be embarrassed and being hurt among a group of people whom I meet in person and who loves playing Chinese whispers.<br />
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I don't mind even being blamed for my paranoia, as no one can really understand what I'm really undergoing through. I am definitely working on correcting my mind to be at peace, and also stay invisible to people who don't value my presence, after all not everyone I have met or going to meet is going to like me.<br />
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May be for sometime I should just stay away from my social networks as much as possible to get over all the negative aura in me and I hope I come out of this trauma soon atleast for my parents, spouse and siblings who are the only well-wishers I can ever have.<br />
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For the people who take time to visit my blog, thanks a ton! Your comments make me immensely happy. Happy blogging!<br />
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<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-91415879230240665732014-09-04T19:10:00.000-07:002014-09-04T19:10:04.508-07:00Today I remembered their talks.There are some of my elderly relatives, supposedly my distant grandmas, in India, whom I would meet once in a while, on some occasions. They would make me sit by their side and talk about something, which eventually would take them through their memory lane and continue telling me their flashback. The first time I would listen to every bit of it with utmost interest, but my next meets with them would make me listen to the same stories again and again, as though the flashback was that of my own. Yet, I would sit and listen to them, like my favorite song replayed umpteen times. It gave me a weird satisfaction as though I achieved something.<br />
To my disappointment, two among these people hardly recognized me on my last visit. They are dementia patients.<br />
I somehow feel good for having listened to them, then. I am guilt free that I dint avoid them or make them feel like they were boring. <br />
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<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-46764032049647052212014-09-01T10:09:00.000-07:002014-09-01T10:09:44.715-07:00one minute friendsOn a crosswalk I met this Indian girl..<br />
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Indian girl: are you from India?<br />
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Me: yes! (With a smile) which place are you from?<br />
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Indian girl: Hyderabad.<br />
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Me: me too (smiles)<br />
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Indian girl: how long has it been since you are here?<br />
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Me: a year and a half. What do you do?<br />
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Indian girl: I finished bachelors in dentistry in India, i came here with my uncle three months back and now I am doing an internship here.<br />
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30 sec passed..<br />
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We crossed the road and posted or ways.<br />
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Few days later coincidentally we meet the same way.. On the crosswalk, I was late for my bus and she was late to her clinic. 45 sec we knew each others fav. Restaurant in Folsom, my career goals, her career goals. It's was funny that we spoke so much in one m minute, and yet don't know each others names<br />
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<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-10505300449186877592014-08-20T23:39:00.001-07:002014-08-21T11:12:27.001-07:00year long craving, not yet satisfied! :(Since my first experience of the Sacramento's scorching heat, I have always longed for anything cool.. Like my hubby, the cool guy around me ;) taking showers for an hour or more (it's only on peak summer days i stop being a water conservationist) Smoothies, cold coffee, ice tea and of course sharbats like roohafza or the rose syrup coolers. And yet I haven't quenched my thirst which is beyond just the taste because I have lately been craving for one such sharbat that I tasted almost 10-15 years back and which still remains one of my favorite (Ok may be that's an exaggeration that a person might consider something favorite by just experiencing it once in life) but right now my craving being at its high, has made me go to all the Indian and middle Eastern stores around in search of it. But all in vain :(<br />
Of course I did try the online store where their shipping charges is five times the price of the product. Looking at which I tell myself "No! Do be a despo. Control your cravings, you don't have to waste your buck on one bottle rather than buying the shock enough for a lifetime to enjoy"<br />
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And I'm here still craving for this long forgotten taste of the green sharbat made from vetiver roots -khus syrup<br />
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Guys, if you know where I can get this amazingly good product to quench my year long thirst, I would be grateful and would also share its refreshing recipes with you. Please, please help me!!!<br />
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<br />V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-84006252981420582262014-08-15T15:09:00.003-07:002014-08-15T15:51:33.026-07:00What do you do for your country?<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">I am quite impressed by India's new PM's agenda through his independence day speech. May be we can look forward to a positive 'corruption-free' development for the next few years under the new govt. <a href="http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/pm-narendra-modi-s-independence-day-speech-at-red-fort-highlights-576248" target="_blank">here are the highlight of Mr. Narendra modi's speech</a>.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">What caught my attention most was his talk about the issues of rape, development of villages for the over-all country's development,integrating the poorest of the poor with bank accounts and also giving an insurance through debit cards for upto 1 lakh rupees.</span><br />
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<i>"<span style="font-family: roboto; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">I want to ask every mother and father, you ask your daughters 'where are you going, who are you going with'. But do you ever ask your sons these questions? After all, those who rape are also someone's son."</span></i><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">True, when we talk about rape our heads do hang in shame. I totally agree with what Mr. PM said. But In this case I would even blame the girls who are also responsible for such a situation to arise. Not just that, one should be educated about sex - the good and bad about it from the age the individual reaches his/her puberty, or may be even younger. But one thing i notice in most Indian families is, there is always an embarrassment among the family members to even a mere utterance of the S word, which i feel would also lead a young adult to this situation of confusion on what is right and what is wrong. It might also be a struggle between his/her animal instincts and morality. Moreover, as far as my knowledge goes, only from the colonial era, many of these sexual liberalism (so many of the ancient sculptures show only nudity) in India got stigmatized later to a better establishment or rather colonization of the Indian minds with European values</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Making the long story short, i would say, parents/guardians or any elders in the family should also take responsibility in talking about issues like child abuse, sexual abuse and rape seriously to their children.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Having a goal of developing at least five villages by every Member of Parliament, by the end of five years is a big deal. It would be amazing if they do succeed. It all sounds good to the ears of every citizen, but are we all doing our bit of work to improve our society? Every individual's mentality is such that when there is a change in the govt., they will wait for a year and see if there are any good changes made by the govt. if they aren't the blame the govt., and even if there is a slightest change, they wouldn't be satisfied. People should realize one thing 'Rome was never built in one day'. In this case may be we can substitute it with "the Taj Mahal' ;) </span></span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Not littering; throwing any waste fallen around, into the dustbin. <a href="http://www.theuglyindian.com/">http://www.theuglyindian.com/</a></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">obeying the traffic rules, not jumping signals, make way for emergency vehicles. It makes a BIG difference.<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hZ1hCZtZyes" target="_blank"> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hZ1hCZtZyes</a></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Learn to live life selfless and trustworthy. I'm not say, you should donate all your earnings or property to some random person, but when you see some one in need, please help, may be not money, at least by uttering few kind words. You never know, someday a mere stranger you'd helped long time back,may return your favour. </span><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N47HULidOY0">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N47HULidOY0</a></span></span></li>
<li>report any kind of violence seen or experienced. ignorance will only aggravate the problem.<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rWouX49lGiw" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rWouX49lGiw</a> , <a href="https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=541868952609495&set=vb.426895610773497&type=2&theater">https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=541868952609495&set=vb.426895610773497&type=2&theater</a> , <a href="https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=540462819416775&set=vb.426895610773497&type=2&theater" target="_blank"> https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=540462819416775&set=vb.426895610773497&type=2&theater</a></li>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-15265476772724517602014-07-28T18:41:00.001-07:002014-07-28T18:48:04.949-07:00My Pet Plant? !! :P<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I have always had a close connection with dogs, and have always had one as a pet from my childhood. Even now in my parents place in India, they have a Labrador named snoopy, the youngest and the most adorable family member.<br />
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But since i have relocated to the US two years back, i have never thought of having a pet here, for certain reasons. But I have started gaining interest in gardening, which is a common one for both, my husband and me. <br />
Though we live in an apartment, we managed to grow a couple of ornamental plants, and just started trying our luck in growing some veggies and herbs, out of which the Curry leaf plant is doing the best,having survived the winter last year. Usually the summers and winters go by almost 10 degrees higher in Sacramento when compared to the weather in the bay area. This amazed many of our friends who have been unsuccessful in growing the same and hence we were also motivated to take extra care of the plant.<br />
Now, the plant has grown double its height from what it was in January.<br />
My husband would even go and check on the curry leaf plant everyday before he goes to work. And everyday I just go and stand in the patio admiring the plant closely for sometime. My mom and dad, would even ask me to show the plant on the Skype calls I have with them every week, for seeing how big its grown. I know this must sound weird, but this plant has also become a common topic to discuss with my loved ones. My silently growing, green pet :)<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-18150722165315114932014-07-26T05:08:00.000-07:002014-07-26T05:12:32.010-07:00cynicism everywhere<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Unfortunately, I see the world is full of cynicism! :(<br />
Not just a stranger, but even a close family member or a close friend can be very cynical.<br />
I am not a very out spoken person who would talk openly about a lot of things, but now that I am married I try to open up conversations with this new family and the relatives. Having had a chat with distant relative in my new family few weeks back, the call ended up making me sad in some way. Though the conversation was mostly the general, how are you? What are you doing? And stuff like that, having remembered this last talk about her husband who doesn't help her around in the house hold chors, I asked her in a jovial way if her husband has started helping her (not minding her husband who was also a participant in this conversation) now that she is carrying a big bump. She shunned my question in such a way making me feel shameful for asking the question. Eventually she abruptly cut the call while i was going to say something.<br />
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There were some strangers disguised as friends who had made me feel bad before, but this was the worst i have come across with a family member. I feel very insecure to talk freely to some of these people who have become my relatives</div>
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Unlike the cats, being curious, i think, is the last thing that can kill us, humans.<div>
My li'l cousin became fidgety with the new toy he got, may be just five minutes back. He, not listening to his grandma's advice of not breaking that, my cousin continued doing his job and finally tried splitting his new toy into as many pieces as possible (of course he din't break anything). My brother and I kept watching the fun, apart from hearing to the grandma complain to us, not to buy him new toys. My brother remarked, this is the way one can redesign things and develop the interest for engineering new things. Eventually, this little boy tried fixing this toy back to its form. Indeed he did it. This amazed all of us, and so did my brother's remark.</div>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-65789114126436814462014-07-21T16:18:00.001-07:002014-07-21T16:27:19.744-07:00Weekend hiking/camping!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I had finally got to visit my cousin brother over the weekend, who stays in the Alameda county of California. On Saturday,on my way i came across this,<br />
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Though it made me laugh at that moment, I think one should live life doing whatever pleases them not fearing the consequences of the risks they take.<br />
Apparently, I did an off trail hike, getting frequent helping hand from my husband and my cousin. Momentarily i feared skidding down as the climb was very steep but ultimately I was utmost satisfied climbing to almost the top of the mountain.<br />
This was the best hike I have done, also because this was the first time i saw a snake so close<br />
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The common king snake!<br />
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After camping for the night, we hiked around the Anthony Chabot lake. Came across a variety of vegetation there; the water fowls, People fishing, the golden eagle. The view was amazing! It was my longest hike so far, - 10 miles and I realize how much my stamina has improved over one year, motivating me to improve more over my upcoming hiking/camping trips.<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-66514299868593314472014-07-07T19:10:00.001-07:002014-07-07T19:10:25.823-07:00a short visit to the land of enchantment!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
On my visit to my brothers place for the July 4th long weekend, with a desperate need to escape from my mundane stuffs, this was the first time I was able to explore some good places at the land of enchantment -New Mexico. Though the weather was as bad as it is right now in California, the place has always made me feel relaxing. It's architectural design which matched is desert environment; the New Mexican authentic cuisine; and of course my brother who made me feel like I'm home. I enjoyed everything thoroughly.<br />
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This was an advertisement of the arts and handicrafts at one of the native Americans village. Real indians ;)<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-26674640142300974202014-06-30T14:06:00.004-07:002014-06-30T14:06:54.230-07:00Some shocking tamil quotes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
With my love for poems, and as an amateur poetess, I learn a lot from reading the works of some great poets. Today, I came across this <a href="http://sangeethas.wordpress.com/2013/10/27/some-extinct-tamil-proverbs-in-connection-with-dance/" target="_blank">blog</a> while searching for some old Tamil poems online. Till this time I had a positive impact about quotations and proverbs because of the philosophical nature of most proverbs I have read. But the proverbs that are talked about in this blog shows how much of differences people had in the society a century ago. How peoples perception changes about an individual based on his/her profession.<br />
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Dance, which is today considered a very lively form of art, was some time back considered as the prostitute's job, and the dark comparison people have made with their superstitious beliefs, cultural and ethical standards, comparisons with laziness, selfishness etc had all the more brought down the reputation of dancers in those days.<br />
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The blog gives detailed explanations of the foreign authors interpretation and the view points of the present day dancers and other people, regarding this topic.<br />
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But what confuses me is, if dance and dancers were considered so awful, then how did bharathanatayam, kuchipudi and other classical dances get popularity over time? Were they specific about what kind of dance/dancers to be put in the above mentioned category?<br />
Brahmins are considered the highest caste in the tamil society, And as far as my knowledge goes, almost all my Tamil brahmin friends have classical dancing as their hobby. How did they face this situation then?<br />
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Having read this article in the blog, with the foreigner's 'so-called' exaggerated interpretation of these proverbs may not actually be as hyped. May be the Indian society before the British Raj would have had more number of prostitution going on.</div>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-26335781301821222002014-06-21T02:53:00.000-07:002014-06-21T02:58:24.474-07:00Can stress be one cause for having nightmares? depression?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It's been two years since Deepthi has moved to the states along with her husband, she often feels home sick. She is a home maker who mostly spend her time watching atleast one movie a day, cooking, cleaning the house, painting, gardening and a little bit of reading books. Though she had taken a few courses at the community college and was keeping herself busy, she decided to relax a bit for the summer staying at home.<br />
Since her coming to the US, Deepthi has also developed some health issues like hypothyroidism, and some vitamin deficiencies which she was worried about and even asked me for some home remedies that could help her in improving the levels.<br />
She often feels low on self esteem, lonely which makes her feel like she is having some psychological problem. I try cheering up in ways I can but lately she has even started having nightmares about losing some loved one or something evil happening around her. I have no clue what to do or how to help her. She said she started watching this new series called 'the orange is a new black' which is about the life of a lady in the prison. And from that time, she even looks much stressed out. She is not willing to consult any kind of a psycartrist or any counselor regarding this issue as she thinks that might affect her personal and professional life.<br />
Since I am the only person she has told this to other than her husband who is also worried and helpless about this situation, neither of us know how to help this girl.<br />
If you have any suggestions please give.. This is equally stressful for me who is hearing to Deepthi about her troubles.</div>
V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-62033823830648495992014-06-12T15:06:00.003-07:002014-06-12T15:12:03.857-07:00Some songs that make me write!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Its surprises me how an old hindi classic <i>app ki nazron ne samjha</i> has led me to this thought about life.. This song is apt for the lover affair i have with life.. for all the wonderful things it has gifted me with.<br />
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Check out my poetry/lyrics blog -<a href="http://vsarchana.blogspot.com/"> <b><i>I Write</i></b></a>, to see what I came out with.<br />
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There are some songs I listen to and get carried away with its lyrics. With such deep meaning, that I can relate it to my own life, becoming one with the music.. It makes one cherish their memories, forget all the tension in their mundane life, and enjoy the song with the such intensity, like having attained nirvana<br />
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Like I had quoted on my Quotation blog - <i style="font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://individualisingmyviews.blogspot.com/">My Scribblings!</a> "Meditation and Music together makes an effective pain killer"</i><br />
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It reminds me to enjoy life the way it is.<br />
There are times when things don't happen the way I wanted it to, or times when I feel bored, or may be just warming my couch day-dreaming about the most absurd things in life, but to my surprise, these are the days I listen to some of these audible energizers, I tend to have a buoyancy to do some of the most unexpected things that I least imagined to be possible by me..<br />
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Like Falling in love with Shreya Ghosal's voice singing <b>Chickni chameli</b> which led me to write the Delicious Butter chicken recipe into a song.. <b><a href="https://soundcloud.com/v-sai-archana/sounds-from-thursday-afternoon" target="_blank">Chickeni makhani..</a> </b><br />
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Do share with me if you have felt the same listening to some songs.. has it led you to do something innovative?<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-90739264139590047232014-06-11T13:26:00.000-07:002014-06-11T13:26:03.170-07:00The worry that worries me of all the worries<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As confusing the title might seem, is my confused mind. I always have a bad habit, I rather call it a weakness of pondering a lot about too many things that happen around me or in the world<br />
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I watched this animated movie called 'the wrinkles' about the way life is for the old people, their survival in the old age home and so on.<br />
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Here is the link for the movie.<br />
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It made me cry!<br />
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There are people in this world, who are too busy to spend time with family, especially with parents. When parents get old that is when they want their children to be by their side, spend some time with them, talk to them, care for them the way they did when their children were small.<br />
But some people, don't have time for all these. They would rather send their aged parents to the "senior's home", thinking that is a better place for them; thinking that is a place where they would get better care; friends of the same age to talk to. But is this the case?<br />
The movie speaks it all..<br />
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Like any other commercial business, even old age home (some private ones) have become one of the kind. They all definitely have the amenities, all the luxury, may be even a swimming pool and spa for the seniors apart from fitness centers etc.But there are some senior living communities which have these facilities for an eye wash. May be there isn't even a proper trainer appointed for these jobs. Though there are some good senior living places which have all these and are even very friendly, but are these people really here for these pleasures? <br />
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All that the aged parents might ask is for their children and grandchildren to be with them, and spend a little time from their busy schedules with them. This happiness cannot be got from anybody else apart from ones own family. It is cruel for some people in this world to sent their own parents in care of someone else without taking any responsibilities.<br />
Even if they do send their parents to a senior living community, one should always call and even meet their parents at the old age home everyday to keep them happy and make them feel they are cared for by their children.<br />
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This worries me, for I know of people who are in such a situation.<br />
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I fear of what may come tomorrow, when people who go abroad for studying, working and settle down in the foreign country for various reasons , and their parents back in the home land who may not like it there as much, or not willing to leave their mother land...<br />
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This is the worry that worries me most.<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-7659284417173122682014-05-02T21:18:00.002-07:002014-05-02T21:18:44.569-07:00mumma..<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
mein kya karoon teri pyaare baaton ke bina?<br />
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mere dil se na hata saku, yeh hai nahi koi mazaak.</div>
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ab yeh kya ho raha hai mere mann mein tu hi bata?</div>
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pyaar ki nasha mere sar pe hai yeh chada.</div>
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tu jo mili mujhe hui ek nayi shuruwaat</div>
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na ho door humse yeh anoki jasbaat</div>
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jab tu pass ho mere, na hoon mein kabhi tanha</div>
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mann mera gaa raha hai, rok na saku, sunja</div>
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tu hi meri zindagi hai har pal sun le zara</div>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-47256530043194294422013-10-25T18:37:00.002-07:002013-10-25T18:57:29.638-07:00ज़िन्दगी एक पहेली <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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रात गयी , और दिन नयी </div>
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हर दिन एक नयी शुरुवात बनी </div>
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बच्चपन में तो कूब मज़े की </div>
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रोते जगध्ते और हस्ते हुए भी </div>
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इसी तरह सारा जीवन चलता रहा </div>
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ना जाने कब बच्चपन ,जवानी में बदला </div>
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यह दुनिया की सफर तो है बड़ी लम्बी </div>
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कभी रुलाती है कभी हस्साती भी यही </div>
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कधम कधम रक्ते जायेंगे सभी </div>
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किसी और की राहें या अपने कुद की </div>
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सुख दुःख का पहिया चल्ता रहेगा </div>
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अँधेरा हो या फिर उज्जाला भरा </div>
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बुढ़ापा तो हमें बोहुत तड्पाएगा </div>
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आक़ीर फूल किला तो मर भी जायेगा </div>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-65877082457871627812013-10-25T17:31:00.001-07:002013-10-25T17:31:16.690-07:00Manna dey's music is evergreen<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Its sad to know we have lost a great playback singer who had done a great contribution to the Indian film industry with all his great songs. From " Yeh raat bheegi bheegi " to " zindagi kaisi hai paheli" , every song has touched my heart with the lyrics it has and the emotions it had been sung with.</blockquote>
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Among the songs i have heard till date, old Hindi classics have always made me relate the song with my mood and most of the old songs i hear to is of this legendary singer. Each of his songs are not just sung with a syncronising music but also has such deep meanings of love and life.</blockquote>
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This is one such song with the depth ...</blockquote>
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रात गयी फिर दिन आता है<br />
इसी तरह आते जाते है<br />
यह सारा जीवन जाता है<br />
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इत्ना बडा सफ़र दुनिया का<br />
एक रोता एक मुस्कुराता है<br />
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कदम कदम रक्ता है राही<br />
कितनी दूर चला जाता है<br />
एक एक तिन्के तिन्के से<br />
पंची का घर बन जाता है<br />
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कभी अँधेरा कभी उजाला<br />
फूल खिला फिर मरजाता है<br />
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खेला बच्चपन हंसी जवानी<br />
मगर बुडापा तड़पाता है<br />
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सुख दुःख का पहिया चलता है<br />
वही नसीबा कहलाता है<br />
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Even though Manna Dey has left this world, he will be remembered and will live through the songs he has sung to the world.</blockquote>
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-55295291938673864192013-10-22T12:34:00.000-07:002013-10-22T12:48:45.006-07:00nosy people and anger management<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It had always been a concern to me when ever i ended up getting annoyed when i am questioned many times about random things. Initially it made my parents feel i wouldn't be able to maintain good relations because of my anger ,but what was the cause? was it just because i was not cooperating and was being moody all the time?<br />
I was asked to take some anger management therapies and to even practice meditation,which i did. I did get a lot of peace of mind , and my concentration in studies did increase,but it dint really serve the main purpose. On pondering over what went wrong, i realized the people who had questioned me had been very inquisitive in my personal matters,which i dint want to answer to them. it wasnt just me who would have got pissed off,by the questions. i guess anyone else too would. But back then in school ,i was not so matured enough to think people would be so nosy in others affairs. and nor did i know how to reply back what was necessary and not everything i was asked. or to even be rudely straight forward to them or not want to answer some questions.all this irritation did breed in me,and tickled all the hormones which get affected by anger.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">Realizing how harmful it was to survive around such nosy people<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"> <span style="line-height: 18.71875px;">because they want to compare their progress in life to others in order to feel Good about themselves.Or may be </span><span style="line-height: 18.71875px;">nosy people aren't doers they try to achieve their goal of superiority without doing much effort. When nosy people hear about someone who became </span>very successful<span style="line-height: 18.71875px;"> they try to dig behind his success not to learn from him but to prove to themselves that he is not that successful or that he </span>succeeded by luck<span style="line-height: 18.71875px;">. Again their actions have one purpose which is making them feel good about themselves without doing any effort.</span></span></span><br />
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I still feel the same annoyance when come i across people who are very nosy and dig into my personal matters ,but i did learnt to manage the situation in a much calm manner. the book called "how to get over anyone in few days" is one book which helped me with it. it does take lot of effort and practical implementation to manage an anger free conversation with the nosy people though. but ultimately its worth the try not just for for getting over nosy people but one also learns the way to get along well in a conversation.<br />
after all not everyone we talk are always nosy.<br />
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V. Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11290301809573112066noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773084246945672595.post-69519065575311846512013-03-15T10:48:00.001-07:002013-03-15T18:48:11.122-07:00An art so rich<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As a kid I was always inspired by the old Indian temple art and architecture. Of all what fascinated me was the Tanjore paintings which has always been a possessed thing by any very well to do - rich family. (Maybe not, I feel so just for the way 'these' people talk about having given such a high price for a painting) whatever it may be.<br />
I was so amazed for the clean and detailed workmanship of these paintings. The stone studded jewelries , the gold work, the highlights and shading of the gods face.it had always been one form of art I ever wanted to learn.<br />
Since I am a right brained person, I have always showed my creativity in whatsoever.<br />
Like paper art, art from scrap,painting, embroidery, poetry, music; I always ended up giving an art attack to everybody at home. ;)<br />
Finally when I was good enough at them, I decided to learn the art I always wanted to.<br />
I learnt it and ended up with this.<br />
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