Can stress be one cause for having nightmares? depression?

It's been two years since Deepthi has moved to the states along with her husband, she often feels home sick. She is a home maker who mostly spend her time watching atleast one movie a day, cooking, cleaning the house, painting, gardening and a little bit of reading books. Though she had taken a few courses at the community college and was keeping herself busy, she decided to relax a bit for the summer staying at home.
Since her coming to the US, Deepthi has also developed some health issues like hypothyroidism, and some vitamin deficiencies which she was worried about and even asked me for some home remedies that could help her in improving the levels.
She often feels low on self esteem, lonely which makes her feel like she is having some psychological problem. I try cheering up in ways I can but lately she has even started having nightmares about losing some loved one or something evil happening around her. I have no clue what to do or how to help her.  She said she started watching this new series called 'the orange is a new black' which is about the life of a lady in the prison. And from that time, she even looks much stressed out. She is not willing to consult any kind of a psycartrist or any counselor regarding this issue as she thinks that might affect her personal and professional life.
Since I am the only person she has told this to other than her husband who is also worried and helpless about this situation, neither of us know how to help this girl.
If you have any suggestions please give.. This is equally stressful for me who is hearing to Deepthi about her troubles.

Some songs that make me write!

Its  surprises me how an old hindi classic app ki nazron ne samjha has led me to this thought about life.. This song is apt for the lover affair i have with life.. for all the wonderful things it has gifted me with.

Check out my poetry/lyrics blog - I Write, to see what I came out with.

There are some songs I listen to and get carried away with its lyrics. With such deep meaning, that I can relate it to my own life, becoming one with the music..  It makes one cherish their memories, forget all the tension in their mundane life, and enjoy the song with the such intensity, like having attained nirvana

Like I had quoted on my Quotation blog - My Scribblings!  "Meditation and Music together makes an effective pain killer"

It reminds me to enjoy life the way it is.
There are times when things don't happen the way I wanted it to, or times when I feel bored, or may be  just warming my couch day-dreaming about the most absurd things in life, but to my surprise, these are the days I listen to some of these audible energizers, I tend to have a buoyancy to do some of the most unexpected things that I least imagined to be possible by me..

Like Falling in love with Shreya Ghosal's  voice singing Chickni chameli which led me to write the Delicious Butter chicken recipe into a song.. Chickeni makhani.. 

Do share with me if you have felt the same listening to some songs.. has it led you to do something innovative?

The worry that worries me of all the worries

As confusing the title might seem, is my confused mind. I always have a bad habit, I rather call it a weakness of pondering a lot about too many things that happen around me or in the world

I watched this animated movie called 'the wrinkles' about the way life is for the old people, their survival in the old age home and so on.


Here is the link for the movie.

http://viooz.co/movies/24163-wrinkles-arrugas-2011.html

 It made me cry!

There are people in this world, who are too busy to spend time with family, especially with parents. When parents get old that is when they want their children to be by their side, spend some time with them, talk to them, care for them the way they did when their children were small.
But some people, don't have time for all these. They would rather send their aged parents to the "senior's home", thinking that is a better place for them; thinking that is a place where they would get better care; friends of the same age to talk to. But is this the case?
The movie speaks it all..

Like any other commercial business, even old age home (some private ones) have become one of the kind. They all definitely have the amenities, all the luxury, may be even a swimming pool and spa for the seniors apart from fitness centers etc.But there are some senior living communities which have these facilities for an eye wash. May be there isn't even a proper trainer appointed for these jobs. Though there are some good senior living places which have all these and are even very friendly, but are these people really here for these pleasures?

All that the aged parents might ask is for their children and grandchildren to be with them, and spend a little time from their busy schedules with them. This happiness cannot be got from anybody else apart from ones own family. It is cruel for some people in this world to sent their own parents in care of someone else without taking any responsibilities.
Even if they do send their parents to a senior living community, one should always call and even meet their parents at the old age home everyday to keep them happy and make them feel they are cared for by their children.

This worries me, for I know of people who are in such a situation.

I fear of what may come tomorrow, when people who go abroad for studying, working and settle down in the foreign country for various reasons , and their parents back in the home land who may not like it there as much, or not willing to leave their mother land...

This is the worry that worries me most.

mumma..

mein  kya karoon teri pyaare baaton ke bina?

jo likhta hai mujhme  pyaari si kahaniyaan,

mere dil se na hata saku, yeh hai nahi koi mazaak.

ab yeh kya ho raha hai mere mann mein tu hi bata?

pyaar ki nasha mere sar pe hai yeh chada.

tu jo mili mujhe hui ek nayi shuruwaat

na ho door humse yeh anoki jasbaat

jab tu pass ho mere, na hoon mein kabhi tanha

mann mera gaa raha hai, rok na saku, sunja

tu hi meri zindagi hai  har pal sun le zara

ज़िन्दगी एक पहेली

रात गयी , और दिन नयी 

हर दिन एक नयी शुरुवात  बनी 

बच्चपन में तो कूब मज़े की 

रोते जगध्ते और हस्ते हुए  भी 

इसी तरह सारा जीवन चलता रहा 

ना  जाने कब बच्चपन ,जवानी में बदला 

यह दुनिया की सफर तो है बड़ी लम्बी 

कभी रुलाती है कभी हस्साती भी यही 

कधम कधम रक्ते जायेंगे सभी  

किसी और की राहें या अपने कुद  की 

सुख दुःख का पहिया चल्ता रहेगा 

अँधेरा हो या फिर उज्जाला भरा 

बुढ़ापा  तो हमें बोहुत तड्पाएगा 

आक़ीर फूल किला तो मर भी जायेगा 

Manna dey's music is evergreen

Its sad to know we have lost a great playback singer who had done a great contribution to the Indian film industry with all his great songs. From " Yeh raat bheegi bheegi "  to " zindagi kaisi hai paheli" , every song has touched my heart with the lyrics it has and the emotions it had been sung with.

Among the songs i have heard till date, old Hindi classics have always made me relate the song with my mood and most of the old songs i hear to is of this legendary singer. Each of his songs are not just sung with a syncronising music but also has such deep meanings of love and life.

This is one such song with the depth ...

   
         रात गयी  फिर दिन आता है
        इसी तरह आते जाते है
        यह सारा जीवन जाता है

        इत्ना बडा सफ़र दुनिया का
        एक रोता एक मुस्कुराता है

        कदम कदम रक्ता है राही
        कितनी दूर चला जाता है
        एक एक तिन्के तिन्के से
        पंची का घर बन जाता है
       
         कभी अँधेरा कभी उजाला
         फूल खिला फिर मरजाता है

         खेला बच्चपन हंसी जवानी
         मगर बुडापा तड़पाता है

         सुख दुःख का पहिया चलता है
         वही नसीबा कहलाता है

Even though Manna Dey has left this world, he will be remembered and will live through the songs he has sung to the world.

nosy people and anger management

It had always been a concern to me when ever i ended up getting annoyed when i am questioned many times about random things. Initially it made my parents feel i wouldn't be able to maintain good relations because of my anger ,but what was the cause? was it just because i was not cooperating and was being moody all the time?
I was asked to take some anger management therapies and to even practice meditation,which i did. I did get a lot of peace of mind , and my concentration in studies did increase,but it dint really  serve the main purpose. On pondering over what went wrong, i realized the people who had questioned me had been very inquisitive in my personal matters,which i dint want to answer to them. it wasnt just me who would have  got pissed off,by the questions. i guess anyone else too would. But back then in school ,i was not so matured enough to think people would be so nosy in others affairs. and nor did i know how to reply back what was necessary and not everything i was asked. or to even be rudely straight forward to them  or not want to answer some questions.all this irritation did breed in me,and tickled all the hormones which get affected by anger.

Realizing how harmful it was to survive around such nosy people because they want to compare their progress in life to others in order to feel Good about themselves.Or may be nosy people aren't doers they try to achieve their goal of superiority without doing much effort. When nosy people hear about someone who became very successful they try to dig behind his success not to learn from him but to prove to themselves that he is not that successful or that he succeeded by luck. Again their actions have one purpose which is making them feel good about themselves without doing any effort.

I still feel the same annoyance when come i  across people who are very nosy and dig into my personal matters ,but i did learnt to manage the situation in a much calm manner. the book called "how to get over anyone in few days" is one book which helped me with it. it does take lot of effort and practical implementation to manage an anger free conversation with the nosy people though. but ultimately its worth the try not just for for getting over nosy people but one also learns the way to get along well in a conversation.
after all not everyone we talk are always nosy.
 :)