Few simple things to get over one's aggression

• Blog/write
• Breath in and breath out deep for a dozen times
• Runnnn....!/workout
• Go and do a favor - act of kindness
• Don't talk at that moment. Instead Sing!
• Remember the best of memories you have had with the person you are showing aggression towards. Sure they are a better person than you think they would be at the moment.
• And of course, stay away from nasty people who could even influence you to get aggression.
• Do whatever stuff that makes you feel positive and relaxed. (The above were just some of my recommendations.)

really really fat

Many Indians have a very funny habit of giving hyped praise which most of the time gives suspicion to the victim, and other people do it to make the victim happy. My aunts all do this very often. They would always say, "you are so thin, how do you Maintain this?" , " slim and beautiful" , tell me the secret " etc etc and I would obviously give an exaggerated smile with a blush, even though I would know that they are bluffing (and me not being as thin as they would show me with their words). This year, when I visited them, not a single person has uttered a word.  I realized how truly fat I have become.

How funnily creative, can I get :P

Since I decided to take a long two months vacation to India, and spend some time with my Parents and Parents-in-law and other relatives, I was  looking for good flight deals starting with the British airways site. It was pretty expensive.
But, what a timing it was.. me giving a gaping expression on seeing the expensive prices and my hubby uttering 'British airways'. I accidentally heard it as 'Beti sheer waste'.
We both laughed our gut out, at my mishearing.

And this even led to my first rap song ;)

hear it here



I am looking for a flight in British air ways,
From SFO to hyderabad, i wanna fly away

loading.. loading.. loading.. its makin me wait
I wanna cheap one, a fast one, a fair deal i say

loadin up and showing the deals - British air ways
Oh Ma gawwd! said my hubby, "beti sheer waste"

Good with a God or Good without a God?!

I had this short discussion with a relative of mine yesterday. Uncle L is an atheist, nothing wrong in that. He is a successful and a very active person, may be in his late 60's or early 70's. He was talking to me about the various communities and organizations he is a member of. One of them were the American Humanist Association with a tag line 'Good with out a God'. That was when I discovered He is an atheist, and was having my own thoughts running in my mind about this new discovery.
He then started explaining what the tagline meant. I listened to everything keenly.
Then I asked him,

'what about the many people who believe in God. The people who pray. Don't you think prayers have a positive effect on a person?'

He said,

'No! It in fact gives a negative perspective to individuals about the way they should live their lives'
In fact, people follow so many traditions in the name of God, it is a waste of time. Instead they could do something useful than to spend hours together performing rituals and reciting something that they don't really understand'

By the time I could ponder on his words and reply back, we were interrupted by other people.

I agree to the point that a lot of people do things without even understanding the purpose of it. Not just religious rituals or superstitious beliefs people have, it happens even in other fields of interests.
But the point that of Uncle L, I completely disagree with,  is, the negative perspective people would have by praying.

I am not a very religious person myself, but I am spiritual, following certain traditions as per my convenience, and mainly the ones that make me happy. Prayers, hymns are like music to my ears which soothes my mind and relieves me from the day-to-day stress I undergo. Isn't that what one should work on? to have a peaceful and stress free life?
In fact, it is a fallacy to say orisons/hymns don't have a positive effect on our mind and heart.
In fact Researchers have come up with findings on the positive effects of Yoga,meditation, praying and chanting hymns have on our brain. you can read more about this online. here are some links for your quick access.

http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2013-11-22/harvard-yoga-scientists-find-proof-of-meditation-benefit

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=104310443

http://www.kaheel7.com/eng/index.php/secrets-of-quran-a-sunnah/282-american-researcher-has-discovered-that-while-praying-the-brain-re-programs-itself


However, I envy the people who have a blind faith in God and pray to him with utmost diligence. Because, this belief is what gives them the confidence and encourages them to start another day filled with happiness, leaving their big burdens on the God(s) they worship.
Some people even accept failure to be the doing of God, for their good.

The same scenario, in case of an atheist, will have to blame himself for his failure. I doubt if an egoistic atheist would be able to handle that in a better way.

At the end of the day, One should do what ever is convenient and satisfying to oneself, and not try to force their beliefs on to others, nor get negatively influenced by others.

The very inspiring blogger award!

Thank you so very much, Athira Rajkamal for nominating me for the very inspiring blogger award. You made my day. Your blog is one place i always check for a book suggestion, when i'm in search of a new book to read :)

This award is given to those bloggers who inspire you. If you are nominated, you have to follow a few rules.

1. Thank and link the amazing person who nominated you2. List the rules and display the Award on your blog3. Say 7 facts about yourself4. Nominate other 15 amazing bloggers for the award, link them and inform them about the nominations

Seven facts about myself.. hmm.. 

1. My high school friends and childhood friends even now remember me for my art work. Yes, I discovered this talent in me from an age of 6 years when I started with abstract art my big brother's precious collection of comics books  and I still continue it. Except I have now learnt some other types of paintings/drawings too. ;)

2. As kids, My brother and I had very unique games we would play together. I would call them  real time scientific experiment instead. We would trap mice, pick them up by our bare hands , place them on blocks of ice, then in  luke warm water, and sometimes even in a freezer of a discarded fridge which was still in working condition. Test on their survival capabilities under different temperatures. We would record the time the rat could stay undisturbed in every condition. :P

3. I was a dog lover until I developed a phobia after having a bad experience two years back, in the streets of Bangalore, where a street dog from no where came charging at me and almost bit my leg. :(

4. I am so fond of chocolate cakes and chocolate ice creams that, one week of not having anything sweet made me crave for them at the middle of the night. One day I even woke my husband for getting me an ice cream. Instead ended up taking a big lecture from him :-/

5. Sometimes my untimely sleep makes me have the most adventurous dreams, based on which I had even written a poem. ^_^

6. Most people I have met till date, live by certain religious rules or customs which I'm sure doesn't make an sense to themselves but still follow to be accepted in the society the live in. :-|


7. I sternly believe one can achieve their goal in life,  if they show constant effort and undoubted trust on oneself. Failures being are part of the learning process. -_-

That was some facts about me. Now its time for me to nominate some talented bloggers who have inspired me...

Shared thoughts and Experiences

When the Heart speaks

It's Raining Words

Tangled Vibes

My own little world

A gal in city

Journeying through Life alone

Evincere

Thanking My Mind

Random Thoughts

Chronicwriter

Humming words

My land of dreams

Chandrika shubham - a reserved chit-chatter!

New Horizon

Congratulation to all the bloggers. Hope you keep inspiring many others with your writings! happy Blogging! :)

my first 5k run

I had to get up early @ 7am on a lazy Cloudy Sunday, having only sleep for 6 hhours
Though I am trying hard to lose my extra pounds, I haven't built much stamina to run continuously, nevertheless I reached the finish line before a few ladies who were trying to keep up with the group.

But it definitely was motivating and hoping to get better in my next run.

painting and reading a book are my anti depressants!

Since this blog is the only place where I ramble with all my emotional being, with just a hand full of people whom i have never met before, reading it, i rather admit it here itself that my mild depression is slowly aggravating inspite of trying to keep myself busy. I so want to talk about it to someone, but I don't want anyone to get stressed because of me; I don't trust anybody who can take what ever I tell them and still expect them to keep it to themselves.
I am definitely missing my life with my parents around me. And may be i am lonely because i haven't made a single friend here, since I am not a very outgoing person(of course it makes me miss all those good old days with my friends and family who were always there for me when i was in India). Or May be I am still a kid who yearns to be in a closed shell and not experience the harsh world.
I think of all possible ideas to keep myself happy. My husband even asked me if i need a dog which i really feel the need for, but i am a person who is still learning to take care of myself amidst my depression. I sometimes even long to have a baby though we have postponed for three more years. Perhaps, these sudden impulses and longings are also symptoms of depression.

Though books  and painting always are my best antidepressants, I dint quite get adjusted to a non socializing life, inspite of being a victim of some people's  rudeness (may be they din't really mean to be rude, or that is a well accepted behavior in the society, but since it was the same persons behaving like that again and again, it has disturbed me very much)
Nevertheless, I feel it is better to talk  to a stranger,not revealing ones identity, than to be embarrassed and being hurt among a group of people whom I meet in person and who loves playing Chinese whispers.

I don't mind even being blamed for my paranoia, as no one can really understand what I'm really undergoing through. I am definitely working on correcting my mind to be at peace, and also stay invisible to people who don't value my presence, after all not everyone I have met or going to meet is going to like me.

May be for sometime I should just stay away from my social networks as much as possible to get over all the negative aura in me and I hope I come out of this trauma soon atleast for my parents, spouse and siblings who are the only well-wishers I can ever have.

For the people who take time to visit my blog, thanks a ton! Your comments make me immensely happy. Happy blogging!